Does your partner:

• Embarrass or make fun of you in front of friends or family?
• Put down your accomplishments?
• Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
• Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
• Tell you that you are nothing without them?
• Treat you roughly – grab, push, pinch, shove, or hit you?
• Injure you, cause you physical pain, or cause you impairment to a bodily function?
• Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
• Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or physically hurting you?
• Blame you for how they feel or act?
• Pressure you sexually for things you are not ready for?
• Make you feel like there is no way out of the relationship?
• Prevent you from doing things you want to do, like spending time with friends or family?
• Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson?”

Do you:

• Sometimes feel scared of how your partner may behave?
• Make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
• Believe you can make your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
• Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
• Try not to do anything that may cause conflict or cause your partner to be angry?
• Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner will do if you broke up?

If any of these things are happening in your relationship, talk to someone. Without help, the abuse will likely continue. Making the first call to seek help is a courageous step. Always remember…

No one deserves to be abused. The abuse is not your fault. You are not alone.

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